A Performer’s Guide to Chastity Play:

Chastity has become an increasingly popular fetish in the online adult space. For many clients, the act of locking themselves into a cage and handing control over to someone else is deeply erotic, even if there’s no physical contact in this online power-play dynamic. For performers, understanding how chastity works and how to guide clients through it can be a powerful tool to build stronger dynamics, create repeat sessions, and elevate the experience… not to mention, make more money!

This guide breaks down the why behind chastity, the different styles of control you can use, and practical ideas for wording, tasks, and punishments that will make your sessions engaging, safe, and easy to navigate.

Why Clients Want Chastity

Chastity isn’t just about denying release, it’s about surrender, attention, and the thrill of being controlled. Clients may choose chastity because:

It intensifies arousal. Denial builds frustration, which can make an eventual release more powerful and pleasurable.

It creates intimacy. By giving up control, clients feel deeply connected to the person guiding them and releases the burden of decision-making.

It reinforces roles. Submissives often crave a clear structure, and chastity makes power dynamics tangible and clear for both parties.

It extends play beyond the screen. A cage can stay on even after a session ends, letting your influence linger for however long you task them with.

Understanding these motivations helps performers tailor their approach. Chastity isn’t just about “don’t touch,” it’s about turning control into an interactive, personalized experience for the user when they contact you to relieve control.

Styles of Chastity Control

Not every client wants the same level of control. Here are a few common approaches performers can use to connect with the customer depending on their power dynamic preferences:

Strict Keyholder Role: You set clear, firm rules, dictate when (or if) the cage is removed, and maintain full authority. This style works well for clients who want to feel completely owned.

Teasing Keyholder: You combine denial with seduction, dangling the possibility of release but keeping it just out of reach. Flirty, taunting language works best here.

Supportive Guide: For clients new to chastity, you may act more like a mentor, teaching, encouraging, and helping them push their limits safely. To promote safety, ensure that you’re confident in guiding them. (See our guide on chastity cages!)

Task-Based Controller: You assign daily or session-based activities, blending control with structure. This keeps clients engaged even outside of direct interaction.

Each style can be adjusted depending on the client’s experience, limits, and fantasy.

Tasks to Keep Subs Engaged

Chastity play thrives on creativity! Tasks not only remind clients of your control but also keep them focused on you between sessions and keep them coming back for more. Some examples include:

Photo or proof tasks: Ask for a daily picture of them in their cage (if they’re comfortable sharing).

Writing exercises: Have them journal about their frustration, devotion, or fantasies for you. They can share this with you over text messages, a picture of a journal entry, or even a voice note of them reading the entry aloud to you.

Edging orders: Instruct them to edge (get close to climax) without release, then lock back up. Repeat however you prefer.

Chore-based control: Assign real-world tasks like cleaning, working out, or meditation, reinforcing that their discipline serves you. You can also ask for photographic or video evidence here.

Counting or ritual tasks: Require them to say a mantra or repeat a phrase reminding them of their status with you, such as, “Goddess owns me, her control is all I desire.” This is also an opportunity to ask them to send you a voice note.

The key is consistency. Even small daily instructions remind them that you’re in control and will keep them in character and in the fantasy for even longer!

Punishments and Rewards

Chastity control works best when paired with consequences. Not all punishments need to be harsh, sometimes frustration itself is enough, but here are ideas you can use, especially if you find that your sub “enjoys” being punished for breaking the rules:

Time extensions: Add hours, days, or weeks to their lock-up for disobedience.

Extra tasks: Increase the number of chores or writing exercises.

Tease without release: Build them up during a session and deny them again.

Silent treatment: Temporarily withdraw the attention they desire most to reinforce your control.

On the flip side, rewards can be just as motivating:

Shorter lock times.

Permission to edge.

A rare release, framed as a gift from you.

Balancing punishments and rewards keeps the dynamic alive and prevents clients from losing interest in the long run.

Language and Wording

The words you choose are powerful in chastity play. Tone can shift the entire mood of a session and make or break things. Here are some common approaches:

Strict/authoritative: “You don’t decide when you’re unlocked. That’s my choice now. You have given up that right.”

Playful/teasing: “Mmm, I bet it aches… but you’ll have to wait. I like you frustrated.”

Nurturing/supportive: “I’m proud of how long you’ve stayed locked. You’re showing real discipline and servitude.”

Switching tone can also heighten intensity. For instance, starting with a supportive style and moving into strict authority can amplify the submissive’s emotional response when they are in the depths of pleasure and control!

Navigating Online Chastity Safely

Because performers can’t physically lock or unlock a client, trust and communication are crucial. Here are best practices:

Set expectations early. Ask how long they’ve worn before, what their limits are, and whether they understand safe use or want to learn safe use. (Check out our guide on chastity cages!) Do not accept physical keys from online clients.

Discuss emergency access. Encourage clients to always have a spare key or exit plan.

Stay realistic. Remember you’re guiding, not physically supervising. Never push a client to stay locked beyond what’s safe for their body.

Keep it human. While control is erotic, empathy and connection make the play sustainable. Checking in on their comfort can actually deepen the power exchange.

Bringing It All Together

Chastity play is about more than a cage. For clients, it’s a symbol of devotion, control, and desire. For performers, it’s a way to extend power dynamics beyond a single session and create deeper, ongoing connections. By understanding why clients lock, exploring different styles of control, and using creative tasks, punishments, and wording, you can turn chastity into an engaging and profitable dynamic.

The key is balance: Keep things safe, humanized, and consistent. When done well, chastity play can transform casual clients into long-term, loyal submissives who feel both teased and cared for under your control! Go get ‘em!