The Art of Letting Go:

Working online, especially with phone and video calls, can be both empowering and exhausting. One day, you feel magnetic, in control, and creatively lit up—on top of the world. Then it’s so easy to feel like you’re forcing a voice that doesn’t feel like yours, staying “on” for someone you dread seeing pop up, or measuring your worth against another performer’s numbers.

Letting go isn’t quitting. It’s editing. It’s deciding what you’re no longer willing to carry so you can keep doing this work with more ease and happiness. Honoring yourself and your creative space is a necessity, especially during the cold, busy months.

Letting Go of Clients Without Guilt

Repeat after me: Not every paying client is worth the cost.

Phone and cam work can trick you into believing you must be endlessly accommodating because income feels tied to availability. But your nervous system remembers all of this. If a person consistently leaves you tense, resentful, drained, or shaky after a session, that’s not “just part of the job.” That’s information you can use to make tough decisions.

Clients you may need to release include these:

• The boundary pusher (“just this once…” every time)

• The energy vampire (never satisfied, constantly escalating)

• The manipulator (guilt, threats of leaving, love-bombing)

• The “regular” who makes you dread logging on

Implementing clear boundaries with clients is essential. Use simple, neutral statements like “I’m no longer offering this” To protect your well-being and maintain professionalism. You NEVER have to cater to someone that is making you uncomfortable or challenging your boundaries and comfort

Release the Persona

Personas can be art. They can also become armor that is entirely too difficult to take off.

Phone and video calls ask for different kinds of performance energy. On the phone, your voice becomes the entire world. On video, your face and body are part of the “performance,” which can intensify pressure to look a certain way, act a certain way, and be “always ready.”

Recognize when a persona no longer serves your authentic self. Softening or releasing it can open space for genuine expression and personal growth.

Try asking yourself:

• Which parts of my persona feel fun and freeing?

• Which parts feel like I’m lying to survive?

• If I could adjust one thing without losing income, what would it be?

You don’t have to burn it all down. Often it’s a slight pivot: changing your tone, your boundaries, your menu, your availability, or how you market. Permit yourself to evolve. Your brand is allowed to mature and shift.

Let Go of “Grind Culture” Patterns

There’s a specific kind of hustle that looks successful from the outside and quietly wrecks you from the inside. It consists of long hours, inconsistent sleep, constant switching between platforms, and never feeling “done.”

A few patterns to release (gently, not perfectly):

• Always-on availability: the belief that rest equals lost money

• Revenue panic: checking stats compulsively, chasing the dip

• Over-delivery: giving more to “earn” loyalty

• Ignoring your body: pushing through strain, fatigue, or burnout.

Healthier patterns aren’t dramatic. They’re simple and steady, like a consistent schedule, a real off-day, and respecting your boundaries. All of these will help you feel more grounded and more capable of tackling online work with a clear and happy mind and body.

Rebuilding a Relationship With Your Voice (Especially for Calls)

If you’ve been forcing a “sexy voice” that strains you, consider this: you don’t have to sound like anyone else to be compelling. Your natural voice, warm, playful, husky, quiet, bright, already has power and appeal.

A few voice-friendly practices that don’t require perfection:

• Warm up for 60 seconds before logging on (gentle humming helps)

• Lower the “performance pitch” if you notice strain (many people go higher when nervous)

• Take micro-breaks between calls (even 30 seconds of silence matters)

• Notice when you’re holding your breath (common on video and phone)

Releasing Comparison and Competition (Without Pretending It Doesn’t Exist)

Let’s be real: this industry can feel like a leaderboard. It’s tempting to compare bodies, niches, earnings, follower counts, gift totals, and “regulars.” And when you do, your brain will always find someone who makes you feel behind.

Comparison isn’t proof you’re failing. It’s often a sign you’re overstimulated, under-rested, or uncertain about your own direction.

A few ways to loosen its grip:

• Curate your feed like it’s your workplace (because it is)

• Take intentional breaks from scrolling on low-confidence days.

• Replace “Why not me?” with “What do I want my lane to be?”

• Keep a private list of your wins (yes, even the small ones)

What You Make Space For When You Let Go

When you release what doesn’t serve you, whether it’s clients, personas, pressure, comparison, you don’t just lose something. You gain room to take back control and comfort in your room.

You gain room for:

• Work that feels safer and more aligned

• A voice that feels like home again

• Boundaries that don’t require explanation

• Pleasure in your craft (yes, craft)

• A career you can actually sustain

Letting go won’t always feel like relief at first. Sometimes it feels like fear: What if I lose money? What if I lose momentum? What if I’m making a mistake? That’s normal. But it’s also often the doorway to something better.