Self Love and Solo Play

May is Masturbation Month, and it's the perfect time to embrace pleasure, self-connection, and a little more kindness toward ourselves both in the bedroom and outside it! Talking about masturbation might still feel a little awkward for some, but the truth is, it's one of the most natural and empowering ways to practice self-love and connect with ourselves.

Whether you're just starting to explore more with new toys or already have a comfortable routine, masturbation is about more than just feeling good; it's about finding your voice, building confidence, and letting go of shame. While this month offers a great reason to start or deepen your solo play journey, the benefits don’t stop when May ends. This is worth carrying into every month, making space for pleasure and sensual self care.

Why It Matters…Especially for Adult Creators

Working in the adult space means we often navigate blurred lines between work and pleasure. Masturbation can become a performance rather than a personal ritual. That’s why it's so important to take time to reconnect with yourself off-camera.

Here’s why celebrating solo masturbation play matters:

Reclaim your pleasure: You're not just a performer, you're a person with varying sexual needs and desires. Tuning into your desired sensations helps you stay grounded in your sexuality and recharges you!

Reset the narrative: Society still throws a lot of shame around masturbation. By owning it openly, you’re not just healing yourself, you’re helping normalize pleasure for others.

Prevent burnout: Constantly giving sexually (especially in front of an audience) can be exhausting. Solo play can be a way to recharge emotionally and physically.

The Real Benefits of Masturbation

We talk a lot about the fun benefits of masturbation, but let’s get honest about what it offers you as a creator and what benefits it has beyond the big “O”:

Mental clarity: Solo pleasure can help reduce stress, ease anxiety, and give you space to breathe outside your content schedule. The feel-good hormones released when you play carry over into everything you do!

Creative fuel: When you know what turns you on, it’s easier to bring authenticity to your scenes, scripts, or fan interactions.

Empowered boundaries: Understanding your body helps you set more precise limits with partners, clients, or collaborators. When you take the time to play with new toys or in new ways, you can explore what you love and what you desire without worrying about anyone watching!

Bringing the Energy Into Every Month

Masturbation Month is a great kickoff, but this self-connection shouldn’t stop when the calendar flips. It will benefit you every month and is necessary to connect with yourself and your body further. Use this month to kickstart a new self-care routine!

Here’s how to keep the momentum going long after May leaves us:

Schedule solo time: Treat it like a shoot or self-care routine. Pleasure is worth prioritizing. Carve out some time for yourself to masturbate! Just because you have something like a massage scheduled instead of it being a spontaneous event doesn’t mean you enjoy it any less when you’re done! It’s the same for masturbation.

Journaling after play: Reflect on what felt good. It might help with scripting clips!

Practice body neutrality: On days when you’re not feeling sexy, solo touch can still be about comfort or curiosity, not pressure to perform. Slowly lotion your body or lightly touch yourself while in the shower or bath, and relax! You don’t have to orgasm to honor yourself.

Let’s Talk Representation and Reality!

As adult performers, we’re constantly seen through the lens of fantasy. But real pleasure is messy, weird, emotional, and beautiful. Your solo play doesn't have to be picture-perfect, it just has to be yours.

And by showing up authentically (both online and offline), you're giving others permission to do the same. So, grab a toy, carve out some time for yourself, and take Masturbation May (and the following months) to the next level!